Friday, April 01, 2005
Summer hifdh Program in Houston!!
Posted at 4/1/2005 1:19:42 am by zremmas
Thursday, March 24, 2005
By the Noble Shaykh, Naasir bin Hamad al-Fahd
may Allah hasten his release
The Shaykh crossed his legs, tidied his 'amaamah and turned to those around him from his students, who sat as though the birds were above their heads, and said:
"Where did we reach in yesterday's lesson, son?"
"We reached the statement of the author: 'And the jamaa'ah is what agrees with the truth, even if you are alone'"
"Yes, yes, and I said to you: That the truth is what our blessed jamaa'ah is upon, and whoever differs with us, then he has left the jamaa'ah, and has innovated in the religion, and has gone against the path of the believers, and ..."
They heard a strong knock on the door...
The Shaykh paused his speech, and turned to one of the students who went to the door and opened it...
And there, was a man, shaggy headed, with a black face, calling out loud:
"O Shaykh...O Shaykh....The house of 'Aadil is burning..."
To which the Shaykh turned to the source of the sound, whilst sitting, and said:
"What has that to do with me?"
"We want you, and your students to help us..."
"And do you want me to rectify what was corrupted by 'Aadil due to his carelessness?"
"O Shaykh, the house is filled with the women and children!"
"He's the reason, this is a result of his carelessness"...
He indicated to the person who had opened the door, and he shut it in his face, the person sat down, and the Shaykh carried on with his lesson and said:
"And know, my sons, that whoever speaks about our jamaa'ah is a misguided man, innovator, khabeeth"
So one of the students asked him:
"Even if he is from Ahl as-Sunnah?"
"How could that be so? Have you not understood until now? How can anyone who speaks about our jamaa'ah be from Ahl as-Sunnah? He is an innovator, infact he is worse then the people of innovations because he does talbees on the people most of...."
His speech was interrupted again due to a knock that was louder than the one before...
One of them opened the door, to which the same man from before appeared:
"O Shaykh....the fire has reached the house of Saalih"
"Saalih...Do you mean that innovator?"
"O Shaykh....rush to rescuing those who are in his home, then advise him"
The Shaykh signaled and said:
"This is a swift punishment from Allah for this innovator"
He signaled to whoever had opened the door, and he closed it.
The Shaykh carried on saying:
"Look at the swift punishment Allah gave this khabeeth innovator, for he is from those who are hiding in the cloak of Ahl as-Sunnah, but Allah uncovered his curtains when he began speaking about our blessed jamaa'ah, and Allah increased him in punishment, as a result his house was burnt!"
One of his students said:
"O Shaykh...but I know Saalih....and had not seen any innovations from him!"
"This is because you have not become well acquanited with the knowledge of Jarh and ta'deel yet, and this is what makes me say to you: That the one hiding behind the Sunnah is more dangerous than the innovator who openly announces his innovation; that man, I had seen him many times in the masjid, he doesn't turn towards me, or greet me and avoids me"
"Is that an innovation?"
"Yes, yes, had he been from our blessed jamaa'ah he would have greeted us!"
He interrupted his speech for a third time, when the door was opened, the same man appeared and cried:
"O Shaykh...the fire has reached the masjid"
The Shaykh turned to him and said:
"I presumed that will happen, because the masjid did not protect itself from having innovators pray in it, and you have bothered us too much man, so don't come to us again"
"O Shaykh...the masjid!"
"Even if it is a masjid....The reason for all this is 'Aadil, and he is the one responsible"
He signaled to the one who opened the door, and he closed it.
The Shaykh carried on:
"Look at the evil of the people of innovation, laa hawla wala quwata illa billah...even the masjid wasn't protected (from it)"
"O Shaykh...Why don't we help them to stop the fire in the masjid?"
The Shaykh cleared his throat and said:
"My son....those who believe in shutting out the fire are a mixture of people, some of them innovators, some of them fusaaq, and our jamaa'ah is free from them, and if we were to help them, some evil would happen to us."
He turned to one of his students and said,
"Read, baarakallahu feek"
And just before he read...A loud noise frightened them...
So all of them rushed - including their Shaykh - to the door...
And they didn't open it and run out...
Until they saw the walls of their house had collapsed infront of their eyes...
And the fire was spreading from it in every direction...
[Written 2nd Thul-'Aqdah 1422]
Posted at 3/24/2005 4:50:41 pm by zremmas
Friday, March 11, 2005
It's taken me a long time to finally be comfortable in my skin. It's taken a long time to feel confident, to feel content and happy, despite sticking out like a sore thumb. It took a while to not look at "pretty" girls and feel jealous, wishing I could be thought of as "pretty" again.
I remember very clearly, I was walking out of one of my classes(in high school), and a boy walked out from a classroom near-by. We were headed down the stairwell, but it was pretty crowded. He met up with another girl, and they both stood behind me as we inched closer to the stairs. He said to her, in a hushed whisper(which made it worse), " She's the ugliest girl in school."
That very literally shattered my self-esteem and self-worth. Especially because I had just started wearing hijab, although my looks didn't matter much to me, the comment hit me hard. It's been a long time since then.
I hold my head higher now, I make it a point to not divert eye contact from women who are walking towards me. I am not intimidated. I am not ashamed. If you think I'm ugly, that's quite alright. My standards of beauty, and criteria for beauty are much different than what they were as a 14 year old in high school. Heba (from Jack and Bobby) said it well that this is me, saying yes to Allah, and to my faith, and saying NO, to the oppression and degredation, the exploitation of a woman for her body; that her sexuality should be flaunted and that should be the judgement of her value and self-worth.
I am worth more... more than what L'oReal can ever offer.
So like I said, I'm more confident now with myself and my faith (although I have so much to work on). I am happier now with the decisions I have made than I was while making them, because although there was faith in the righteousness of my decision, I now have "real world" experience in the benefits it reaps. Those who looked down on me before still may do so, but like Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Posted at 3/11/2005 5:30:43 pm by zremmas
Tuesday, March 08, 2005
Today’s society practically revolves around celebrities, hit shows and whatever the new fad in Hollywood may be. Needless to say, Hollywood society has much more influence over us than we have over it. The show Pimp My Ride picks a lucky young person, with a broke down vehicle every week and “pimps it.” The show uses the infamous West Coast Customs® to add everything from fish tanks, to chandeliers, to fountains, to televisions underneath the vehicle! Now, of course everyone would like to have a nice car, with reasonable amenities and maybe an XM radio, but these kids’ reactions is that bothers me. Many of them, after seeing their new and improved ride are not only excited, but believe that it is a new beginning for them. Many will go on to say that now, since they have a wonderfully equipped car, they can do anything they set their minds to, and all their dreams can come true. Confidence oozes out of their ears, because they have obtained the key to happiness and success!
Along with putting an average of $20,000 into cars that are ready for the junk yard, the show gives these young dreamers gifts to help them with whatever they dream to be. For example, a young want-to-be cosmetologist was given a full line of designer cosmetics, a yoga instructor was given a free pass to a how-to-teach-yoga seminar for the weekend and a surfer was presented with a new state of the art wetsuit and surf board. The show encourages these kids to work hard and to eventually earn what they deserve, but actions speak louder than words. What sort of message do kids receive when they see someone go from a rags-to-riches car with no effort of their own invested? My younger brother thinks I should take my perfectly fine Toyota Camry to California, wreck it and then have MTV help me “pimp my ride,” because then I will be…happier? Or maybe it will open up a whole slew of opportunities for me? I don’t think so, but many do. Life has become a contest to see who can have the best most superficial things.
These kinds of shows are taking over; they could very well be the new wave of reality TV. But people are not looking to make over their minds and souls or relationships, it’s their houses, looks, cars, yards, and wardrobes that need to and have priority to be made better. With shows like Ambush Makeover, Design on a Dime, Trading Spaces, The Swan and The Fabulous Life of… (which tells us what exactly makes life fabulous) they all enforce the idea that things create happiness, and the public buys into this craze. Making our materialistic side as content as possible has become a priority. This affects family values as well. Children have always believed that certain objects can make them happy, but eventually grow and learn differently. But due to this mania, even parents enforce this ideology. MTV’s show Sweet 16 goes into the life of a to-be 16 year old and the extravagant and lavish party their parents throw for them. How much money is spent is what it is all about. The more expensive the party, the happier the child is. So at such a young age it is enforced that money buys happiness. The most expensive party ran around $700 grand; that child then imploded from exhilaration. The socialization process of marriage can be interrupted due to a materialistic mind set. The need to have the best of things out weighs any compromise, or the lack of finances to support such a lifestyle. About 70% of divorces in the U.S are due to financial problems. Love can not survive without money. If couples put more time and effort into their family lives rather than agreeing to work over time to afford that new plasma big screen TV, maybe more families could stay together.
These shows are not making any political statements, or are the product of any national tragedy, other than the diminishing values of our society. Non material culture is depreciating in value quicker than a brand new car just driven off the lot. Looking good and fit is not only a sign of good health, but a sign of success. After all, so many people make a living off just their bodies now a days, it’s not wonder the better you look, the better you are. With a combination of authorization, routinization and the constant enforcement has made American obsessed with living like a celebrity. Because there is no one openly condemning people for attempting to find happiness in a Neimen Marcus catalogue, it’s okay. And because they have used that American Express card till it is maxed out so many times, knowing they can hardly make minimum payments, it’s still okay, because they do it all the time.
The all knowing and powerful box tells us what is important and what can and will make us happy. Pimped out rides, having the same hair style as Jennifer Aniston, the Marc Jacobs bag you have to have, the amazing view over the beach from that Malibu beach house, a great botoxed wrinkle free face, and having the perfect landscape to make a welcoming environment to your home to impress those that you are competing with for the “most superficial” award is where happiness truly lies.
Posted at 3/8/2005 9:11:35 pm by zremmas
Friday, February 18, 2005
Al Maghrib is coming! Al Maghrib is coming!!
For more details go to www.almaghrib-tn.org
You can also get a registration form from the site, or email me zremmas [at] gmail [dot] com.
If you're a sister coming from out of town... holla at me and we'll meet up =) inshaAllah
Posted at 2/18/2005 12:10:31 am by zremmas
Friday, February 04, 2005
These notes are taken from a lecture by Bilaal Phillips. Alhamdulillah, it was brief but lucid reminder of the Akhira. The lecture can be found at www.Ilmquest.org
It is a well known hadith in Sahih Bukhari in which a bedouin asked the Prophet (saw), "When will the hour be?" Prophet Muhammad (saw) replied, "What have you prepared for it?"
**In our anticipation of the akhira and worrying about when it will be, we should constantly prepare ourselves and our souls for it through accumulating good deeds. We should strive and seek to perfect our prayers and other worship.**
Folk Islam has influenced muslims into delaying righteousness till old age. For example: Hajj. Rasul-Allah(saw) said that if one has the means to go yet delays it, it makes no difference to Allah(swt) if they died a Christian or a Jew.
People nowadays are encouraged to wait because you're still young, you're going to do a lot more sins. So wait till you are old and run out of steam, then make Hajj and purify yourself. This is part of why so many people are dieing during Hajj, or on their way to Hajj. It is a delusion that this Hajj will purify them. Someone who has lived a corrupt life cannot perform Hajj Mabroor (without corruption). They will not have the patience which is attained by living a righteous life. They will step on someone if they are stepped on, elbow someone if they are elbowed, fight or argue etc.
**It takes patience and self-control of oneself to participate in Hajj, because of the large crowds and all the activity. The patience required cannot be attained overnight.**
Another view regarding this is that, "We have time, we're young." The question is DO WE HAVE TIME ??? Do we know when we'll die. Allah (swt) says: Repentance will not be accepted from those who commit sins until death overtakes them, and they say "Now we repent." Nor will it be accepted from those who die in disbelief. I have prepared for them a painful punishment." (4:8)
It cannot be delayed. We cannot afford to do that.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 296 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) observed: When three things appear faith will not benefit one who has not previously believed or has derived no good from his faith: the rising of the sun in its place of setting, the Dajjal, and the Beast of the earth.
Allah(swt) warns us of how sudden death can be.
"But when they forgot the warning they had received, We opened to them the gates of all (good) things, until, in the midst of their enjoyment of Our gifts, on a sudden, We called them to account, when lo! they were plunged in despair! " Surah Al-Naam, Ayah 44.
The Comparison Between the Death of a Believer and Disbeliever.
The believers’ soul will be taken like a drop of water from a vessel.
The disbelievers’ soul will be torn
from its body like claws scratching wet wool, tearing it apart.
Angels will wrap the soul in sweetly scented garments from heaven, they will carry it up to the heavens and ask Allah(swt) to bless the soul before they return it to the state of the grave.
Two fierce looking angels will come and bring rags to wrap the soul in and they will seek permission for it to enter heaven, but it will be denied and it will be thrown back into the grave.
The believers deeds will be personified as a beautiful sweet smelling young man and will be their companion in the grave
The disbelievers’ deeds will be personified as a wretched, horrifying beast and will accompany him in the grave.
Believer will answer the questions easily.
The disbeliever will not be able to answer and will only be able to say "aa,aa,aa."
A window towards paradise will open in their grave and they will feel its sweet breeze.
A window towards hellfire will open and they will feel the hot winds of the hellfire.
The two angels, Munkar and Nakeer will ask three questions: Who is your Lord? What is your religion? Who is your Prophet?
Just because you memorize the answers doesn't mean you know the answers. It’s not about memorizing. You have to live it and apply it to your lives.
Some people ask about people who have died 10000 years ago if they are still waiting for Judgment Day. Time is not relative in death.
Some muslims call on those who have died when they want something. In Sunan Abu Dawood, it says that Du’aa is ibaadah. So du’aa to anyone other than Allah, is worship to other than Him which is shirk.
" Verily those whom ye call upon besides Allah are servants like unto you: Call upon them, and let them listen to your prayer, if ye are (indeed) truthful! " Surah Al-Araf:194
"When My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calleth on Me: Let them also, with a will, Listen to My call, and believe in Me: That they may walk in the right way." Surah Al- Baqara:194
The Minor Signs of Judgment Day
1. Barefoot naked, poor shepherds will compete in building tall buildings.
2. Ignorance will abound, knowledge will decrease, adultery will be rampant, wine drinking will be common. Women will outnumber men 50:1
3. People will compete in building masjids and minarets.
The Ten Major Signs
1. Smoke will appear all over the earth which will cause believers to
catch something similar to a slight cold, whereas the unbelievers
will be hit harder by it.
2. The appearance of Ad-Dajjal
3. The Beast
4. Sun rising in the West
5. The arrival of Yajaj and Majaj
6. Return of Prophet Isa (as)
7. An earthquake from the east
8. An earthquake from the west
9. An earthquake from the Arabian peninsula
10. A fire from Yemen
Righteous people will be taken after Isa(as). Disbelievers will be called on by Shaytan to worship idols. Allah's(swt) name will no longer be mentioned. The trumpet will be blown and everything will be destroyed. Rain will come and people will be resurrected like vegetable on a clear plane. Naked and uncircumcised. Everyone will be worried about themselves, so no one will care about the nudity. People will be perspiring to their necks or other parts of their body relative to their sins. They all begin to search for Adam(as) to relieve them of being in such a troubled state, then Prophet Nuh (as), then Prophet Abraham(as), then Prophet Musa (as), then Prophet Isa(as), then finally Prophet Muhammad (saw). He will make sujood to Allah(swt), until Allah(swt) grants this intercession. This is known as the Great intercession.
After people come before Allah(swt), they begin to blame each other for their sins. They become tired of this, and finally ask for forgiveness. Then the deeds are distributed. One who has more righteous deeds will receive them in his right hand, those who did , will receive them in his left.
**When we eat, step in the masjid, and a number of other things, we are told to prefer to the right over the left as reminder to ourselves to always choose the "right." **
Then the questioning begins. We will be asked our declaration of faith. Then asked about our salaah. If our salaah is in order then everything else will be in order as well. If our salaah is deficient, then we will have failed.
Salaah is the only thing between a believer and non-believer.
Then all the bodily organs will testify for or against a person, by Allah's leave. We will be held accountable for everything we did, as well as blind following, and the pleasures we indulged in.
Do you know who is bankrupt?
The truly bankrupt person is he who comes before Allah (swt) and must compensate those he wronged by giving them his good deeds, or taking their evil ones because he backbit, slandered or cheated them.
Rasul-Allah(saw) also warned us of doing Riyaa (showing off). Doing righteous deeds for show.
There are three people who will be thrown into the hell-fire first.
It will be a martyr who fought in jihad and died, but did it for praise of others.
It will also be a Philanthropist who spent in the cause of Allah, but did it for the praise of others.
It will be a Scholar who learned the deen, but did it for the praise of others.
You will know him, because he will be arrogant. Humility is an essential part of scholarship. Also scholars who wear a special robe so they will be recognized.
It is narrated by Shal ibn Sa'ad that the Prophet(saw) said that the believers will go by a pond, and whoever passes by me will drink and never be thirsty again. Some people will come in front of me, and then they will be veiled from me and I will say these are my followers. I will be told, you do not know what innovations they did after you, and I will not want to see them again.
In Sahih Muslim it is narrated by Narrated Ibn 'Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him): Allah's Messenger (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said, "Nations were displayed before me (and in the display) one or two prophets would pass by along with a few followers. A prophet would pass by accompanied by nobody. Then a big crowd of people passed in front of me and I asked, 'Who are they? Are they my followers?" It was said, "No. It is Nabi Musa (peace be upon him) and his followers." It was said to me, "Look at the horizon.' Behold! There was a multitude of people filling the horizon. Then it was said to me, 'Look there and there, above the stretching sky! Behold! There was a multitude filling the horizon,' It was said to me, 'This is your nation out of whom seventy thousand shall enter Paradise without reckoning."
The scales will be raised and there will be a bridge over hell. The strong of faith will cross quickly, those with weaker faith will crawl, those without faith will fall off. and Those who make it to the other side will enter Jannah.
May Allah make us of those who enter Jannatul-Firdaws. Ameen.
Posted at 2/4/2005 11:06:12 pm by zremmas
Thursday, January 06, 2005
And a youth said, "Speak to us of Friendship."
Your friend is your needs answered.
He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
And he is your board and your fireside.
For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.
When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the "nay" in your own mind, nor do you withhold the "ay."
And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.
And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.
For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.
And let your best be for your friend.
If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill?
Seek him always with hours to live.
For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness.
And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.
Is it my friend who abandons me, my company, my friendship to save themself, and maybe help me in saving myself?
Posted at 1/6/2005 12:19:29 am by zremmas
Sunday, December 12, 2004
I write this post with great sadness at my fellow Muslims and my experiences with some of them recently. I don't want to get into details as to what happened but it has a great deal to do with adab. Adab in dealing with people, talking with people and respect for the masjid. Before I start I want to make it clear that this isn't one of those "what is wrong with Muslims" posts or any attack on any tpes of Muslims or Islam in general. Heck no. There are indeed a lot of things right about Islam [In fact, everything] and Muslims, so why concentrate on the bad when I could be concentrating on the good? Well, one main reason is that as Muslims we should always be striving to achieve a high level and after we achieve it we strive to go higher and higher. The believers at the time of the beloved SAW were never content where they were at. No, they were always trying to get better and better. This post contains a few things we overlook and can work on, speaking first and foremostly for myself.
Many people converted at the time of Muhammad SAW and today because of how great the adab or manners were of the people. [How they spoke and acted with everyone] Actions speak louder than words and these actions spoke loud enough to convert people to Islam. Looking at how Muslims acted was enough to convert these people. As time wore away, did the did the actions of the believers also wear away? It seems that way, if one were to compare the adab of the prophet SAW and the adab of people today. We no longer go out of our way to make a newcomer feel welcome, nor do we rush to volunteer ourselve in efforts to help people in need. It's little things like that [and even smaller] that do make a wrold of a difference.
The beloved prophet Muhammad SAW said the best among us is he who says the salaams first. So why do we fid it ofdd if we are outside at the mall or any other place and a fellow Muslim we don't know says Say "Asalaam Alaikum"? Giving the salaams especially if we don't know the person, created a sense of unity. In a way it says "I've got your back when/if you need it" because they acknowledged you or you to another person. So say salaams, you're following the footsteps of the beloved SAW. To be able to have this wonderful example to follow is truly a gift.
Aother thing is smiling. People, including myself, don't smile anymore. These days it is said that it is weird to smile at random people. I don't get it. Just because someone smiles at you does not mean something is up. You don't need a reason to be happy. Plus, it is a sunnah to smile. Remember Muhammad SAW did say smiling was charity. Plus, it tends to make you more approachable to people than if you were to walk around glowering, no? Be approachable. Makes for excellent da'wah opportunities.
Remember Islam does not distinguich between race, gender or class. So why should we? Or it doesn't matter who you know. We should treat everyone equally and with respect, especially in the masjid. Proof of this is in hajj. You could be standing next to the poorest man in the world and next the the richest man in the world and now know it. No one is above anyone except in terms of the deen. And only Allah SWT knows that. It's the house of Allah, it would be nice to give it respect by respecting others.
Posted at 12/12/2004 5:58:32 pm by Hijabified*
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
Advice to the Muslim Woman (Part 2)
Preserve your obedience to Allaah
My second piece of advice to you is to preserve your obedience and duties to Allaah. This falls under two catergories.
Acts of worship (al-`Ibaadah)
1. Acts of worship.
As for the most important act of worshp; it is the prayer because it is the greatest pillar of action in Islaam. Many women ignore ithe importance of the prayer or they know its importance, mistake and it has to be rectified.
Secondly, fasting is from one of the greatest acts of worship Allaah, the Most High, says in a hadeeth qudsi:
All actions are for the son of Adam, except for fasting. It is for Me and I will give the reward for it.
In another hadeeth qudsi he says:
My slave does not keep coming closer to Me with the non-obligatory things until I love him more.
So this is an encouragement for the Muslim women to increase upon fasting, but of course this must be with the permission and agreement of the husband. This applies only to the non-obligatory fast. As for the prayers, they are obligatory and very important so she must preserve them. Allaah, the Most Mighty and the Most Majestic, says about the prayer:
Preserve your prayers, especially the middle prayer.
He, the Most Perfect and the Most High, says:
Prayer has been prescribed for the believers at fixed times.
With regards to knowledge:
The woman must increase upon attending the gatherings of knowledge in which the scholars and the students of knowledge discuss and talk about the important issues of the religion. If they cannot do that, then it has been made easy by Allaah that tapes are available.
Listen to the tapes of the scholars and students of knowledge. This is very easy, especially in this country.
There are books and magazines based upon the Qur`aan and Sunnah, and the methodology of the Salaf. So this is something they should be keen for and fervent in trying to read them.
The third advice is to try to solve the differences and problems which occur between the Muslim sisters. These differences and problems which arise in relationships can occur in two ways:
Firstly, the relationship between the sister and the husband.
Secondly, the relationship between the sister and other sisters.
Between the sister and the husband:
As for the first, the relationship with the husband, there follows a second problem, that is the problem of the husband's family, and these problems occur frequently. I believe these problems with the husband's family are easy to solve and within control if the wife endeavours and is patient, strives with her soul and tries to put in her heart obedience of her Lord first. Allaah will then make her affairs easy for her.
Also if she depends upon Allaah, the Most Perfect and the Most High, and has the taqwaa of Allaah and reminds herself of what Allaah, the Most Perfect and the Most High says:
Whoever has the taqwaa of Allaah, then Allaah will find a way out for him.
Allaah, the Most Perfect and the Most High, says:
Isn't Allaah sufficient for His slave?
So they must try to solve their problems.
The second way to treat the husband who has bad qualities is to use the opposite treatment of the way in which he treats the wife.
So if he is hard, then be soft; if he is harsh, then be gentle; if he speaks in a rude and in a abrupt way, then speak in a soft and polite way. If the husband has any eeman remaining in him, and some sort of sensitivity, then he will return to good behaviour after a few days or weeks. He will feel that this wife is being gentle and patient, while he is being so harsh and cruel.
He should realise his mistakes and that his wife is a good and believing woman who has patience, and as Allaah, the Most Mighty and the Most Majestic, says:
If you are patient, then know that it is better for the patient.
I would like to make another important point, that is, at times the sisters find bad qualities in their husbands; they may be violent, bad tempered, disrespectful, insensitive and rude.
There are two solutions in these sorts of circumstances. The first is that you go to your elders, scholars and students of knowledge, get advice and sort out this problem. If the husband accepts their advice, the Alhamdulillaah, this is something we praise Allaah for. If he does not accept the advice of the scholars and students of knowledge, then he really must repent and doubt himself.
Between the sister and other sisters:
As for the problems which arise between sisters, then this usually happens because of envy, jealousy and competition. It could also be due to mistakes and assumtions made by unjustified suspicions towards a sister. A sister may suspect her sister and think: "Why is that sister doing this action?" Why did she visit such and such a person?", "Why did she not come to me?", "Why did she talk that way?"
However she should remember that her sister in the religion is greater and closer to her than her own blood sister. It is obligatory for the Muslim sister to be patient and to fear Allaah, the Most Perfect and the Most High, and to find solutions for the problems whether they are with the family, with the husband, or with other sisters.
Spending Time Wisely
The fourth advice to the noble sisters is to preserve one's time and to take care not to waste it. We know from experience and from reliable people who tell us that many women waste their time. It could be for two reasons.
They waste time with other sisters, talking and discussing things which are not important.
It could be due to being busy with the requirements of the house, family and children.
The righteous woman should be able to balance between the responsibilities of the family, the responsibilities of the house and children, working and making an effort in her own religion. Yes this will be tiring and exhausting, but as Allaah, the Most Mighty and the Most Majestic, says:
Those who strive hard towards Me, then We will guide the to Our path.
As for the sisters who sit amongst themselves, then I advise them that they should give salaam to each other, ask each other how they are and ask about themselves, but this should not take more than ten to fifteen minutes. The rest of their sitting should be spent in activities like:
Listening to the tapes of the scholars and the students of knowledge.
Going through a book about knowledge, Islaamic law, education and methodology, etc.
These things, will Inshaa`Allaah close the door to shaitaan, the outcast, who loves to divert the worshipper from Allaah, and from His obedience, the Most Perfect and the Most High.
The fifth and final advice is preserving and safeguarding the tongue. This is done in two ways:
By keeping away the negative things which come to the tongue. Such as the things which arise from it such as jealousy, hatred, envy, backbiting, gossiping, spreading what one hears of talk and suspicion.
Bearing the fruits and benefits of the tongue by doing dhikr (remembering Allaah), calling people to Allaah, enjoining the good and forbidding the evil.
In what I have mentioned, if he woman takes this angle, and preserves the family, her husband, the children, and her faith, then she, inshaa`Allaah, will be the righteous wife. Obedient when her husband orders her, pleasing when he looks at her, and preserving and protecting her secrets as the Messenger of Allaah [sallallaahu`alaihi wa sallam] said (and this is what she will be):
The best thing that a person can have is a righteous wife.
Remember that shaitaan want to distract the worshipper of Allaah from the truth, as Allaah, the Most Mighty and the Most Majestic, says what shaitaan said to Him:
By Your Majesty, I will try to take them all away from Your path, except for your sincere worshippers.
So shaitaan whispers into the minds of Muslims to take them away from the obedience and worship of Allaah, to take them away from His pleasure and to take people into His anger and discontent. So the one who lives such a life, a life taken over by shaitaan, and dominated by shaitaan, then this person will earn the anger of Allaah.
I pray that Allaah may protect those who live in the country as shaitaan will come and make it beautiful for you; this life in the West, this life of the unbelievers, full of corruption. Taking you away from the correct path, by its wealth, by its nakedness, by its arrogance and taking you away from the obedience of Allaah and His Messenger [sallallaahu`alaihi wa sallam].
Remember in the times when you feel like this, what the Messenger of Allaah [sallallaahu`alaihi wa sallam] said to `Umar [radiyallaahu anhu]:
O Umar! Are you not pleased that the world is for them (unbelievers), and for us is the Hereafter?
He [sallallaahu`alaihi wa sallam] also said:
The world is a prison for the believer, but a paradise for the unbeliever.
So I pray that you follow the right path and remain strong on the path of the Sunnah, and all praise is for Allaah, the Lord of the Worlds.
Posted at 12/7/2004 8:09:36 pm by zremmas
Advice to the Muslim Woman(Part 1)
**Foreword**Asalam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu. I seriously debated on posting this up because of the serious copyright on the inside cover of the book and also because of the "lack of orginiality" in posting this, as it is very much someone else's words. I decided to post it up anyhow, because inshaAllah it has been attributed to the author and translators, may Allah reward them for their efforts, ameen; & this blog is about benefical Islamic information out there, not just my words. If it was, the blog would have been done long ago. There is a good deal of benefit in the book and it is also encouraging. So as they say "amaa ba'ad" (to proceed). **
Advice to the Muslim Woman
In light of the Noble Qur’aan and The Authentic Ahadeeth
Shaikh ‘Alee Bin Hasan Bin Abdul Hameed Al-Halabee
Aboo Umayr Hani bin Muhammad & Aboo Ubaidah Amr bin Basheer
Indeed all praise is due to Allah, we praise Him, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of ourselves and the evil of our actions. Whomsoever Allah guides no one can misguide, whomsoever He misguides no one can guide. I testify that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allaah alone. He is One and has no partners and I testify that Muhammad (saw) is His slave and Messenger. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him and his Family, Companions and followers.
To my Muslim Sister in every part of the world.
Know, O believing sister, that you are a twin to the man, identical to him and a part of the human race. You are a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a granddaughter and a grandmother.
Our Messenger Muhammad (saw) said:
Indeed women are the twins of men.
So you, O sister in Islam are part of the great honorable Ummah and that is the Ummah of Islaam, the like of which you will not find on this earth: an Ummah which brought for the leaders, ordinary men, great men and conquerors!
First and foremost, your Ummah is the Ummah of guidance and the true religion. It is the best Ummah which Allah, blessed be His name, has raised up for mankind to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, to command the human race to be just and righteous (according to the law of Allah (Sharee’ah) and the Sunnah of His Messenger Muhammad (saw)).
Liberating the people from worshipping other deities to worshipping the Lord of creation, the Most Perfect, the only one who is worthy of being worshipped, from the distress of this world to ease and comfort of this life and to the next and from the injustice of the other religions to the justice of Islaam.
There is no doubt that the pious women from the Salaf of this Ummah were one the greatest reasons for placing this Ummah to its mighty and elevated position.
Know, O good sister, that Allah, the Most Mighty, has given women a great status regarding authority and honor as He, the Most Majestic, says:
“The believers, men and women, are supporters of one another, they enjoin the good and forbid the evil; they offer their prayers perfectly, give the zakah and obey Allah and His messenger. Allah will grant His Mercy unto them. Surely Allah is All-Mighty, All Wise”
Allah has prescribed laws for you, O my sister, from His rules, regulations and legislative power. He has give you special and distinctive qualities which befit you and are appropriate to suit your nature. Allah, the Most Perfect, has said about Himself:
“Should He not know who He has created? He is the Most Kind and Courteous, All-Aware.”
You are invited, O my sister, to go back to Allah and hold fast to His religion and to stick to the Sunnah of His Prophet Muhammad (saw) and to be a sincere member of the Muslim Ummah, to sacrifice and strive towards building a guided Muslim generation to carry the torch of Emaan again.
O my sister, the enemies of Islaam wherever they are want to deviate you away from your noble mission and significant effort in serving the religion, building and nurturing the Ummah. So we find them offering you exciting worldly temptations and transitory ornaments like those at trinket and jewelry exhibitions. Captivating and deluding fashion models, outrageous and shameful examples!
All this is from the plotting of the unbelievers. Furthermore, we find them in a continuous struggle, burning desires, bellies which are never satisfied, destructive ornaments, struggling to seduce, as if you were created only for this nonsense which disgusts the pure soul.
This is the extent of their call to extravagance, envy, ostentation, and imitation.
Then we see those wrong doers fueling enmity and hatred between you and the man. In their belief you are an isolated daughter, and oppressed wife, a ruined mother and a sister with no power from making any decisions! They claim that the Muslim men are unjust, hypocrites, oppressors and arrogant. All these things are deliberate and planned arguments to make you rebel against the father, to be proud over the brother and to commit unlawful actions outside the marriage tie.
They do no call to justice, mercy and harmony. They are propagating repulsion, ill respect, ruining of lives and oppression.
Then we find all those cheaters still unsatisfied with all of this. They invert the concepts, changing the truth, inciting the women to abandon the Sharee’ah and its limits. They portray piety and modesty as chains against liberty. They say prescribed Islaamic hijaab is a veil of the mind and thought! Praying and fasting are useless and a waste of time! Obeying the husband is a disgrace and an insult!
O my sister, those people are like wild wolves. They want you to be manipulated by their sinful and tyrannical desires in every place; the offices, on the roads, and at their corrupt entertaining places. Naked from every morality, dignity and religion.
They want you to be without any law of conduct except their sordid, enticing lifestyle, ignoble desires and contagious ways.
They are an imitation of their western unbelieving ancestors where their women were under tyrannies, indecency and were a cheap commodity, despite the fact that they claim equality. What sort of equality is that? It is the equality of disgrace, disrespect and forfeiting the rights of women.
O my sister, observe the women who have put aside their modesty and decency in following their desires and despicable behaviour as well as the footsteps of the arrogant and those who went astray. What was the result and the fruits of all this?
O my sister, be proud of your religion because this religion is your honour and the honour of your father and your ancestors. Be a good example to your sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, family and your neighbors. Have a pure association with your glorious Ummah.
Know that modesty is a noble fruit with those who have a concern and vulgarity is a vice with the actions even if they call it many names such as “love”, “liberty” and “equality”.
Bear in mind, O my sister, that your everlasting happiness lies in you being a humble and virtuous daughter, a kind and loyal wife, a good and pious mother together with magnifying the truth, beautifying the good, and enlightening yourself with eemaan.
Know, O my sister, that the prayer is the backbone of the religion and that which distinguishes between the Muslim and the unbeliever. Fasting is a pillar and charity is one of the best actions with which Allah wipes away the sins of the disobedient and negligence of the sinners.
Always remember, O my sister, that those scantily dressed women who have taken off the veil of modesty and have dressed themselves with the dress of temporal civilizations , will neither enter Paradise nor smell its fragrance.
Know and inform those whom you know, my virtuous sister, that the Islaamic hijaab has many conditions. The most important of those are:
- To cover the whole body except the face and hands.
- It should not be a means of beautification nor of affluence.
- It should not be eye-catching.
- It should not be close fitting so that it does not describe the shape of the body.
- It should not be transparent so as not to reveal whatever is beneath it.
- It should not be perfumed.
- It should not resemble the dress of the unbelievers.
- It should not resemble men’s dress.
As a final word, I direct my talk to the women in general in our Muslim lands. I say to her, beware of falling into the same trap tat the women in the disbelieving lands fell into, where she could not find a religion that protected her rights. As for the women in the Muslim lands, what is her excuse when Allah has sent down for her the religion to protect whatever rights and justice she was yearning for.
We do not want the women in our countries to be mere parrots repeating whatever is said to her, to dress up in whatever is made for her, to be dragged after every whim, to run after every misleading attraction and to exhaust herself and to become breathless in following every desire.
We want the woman to have her own unique personality, in her ‘aqeedah, the thought, the manners, the dress and the mode of life. The ‘aqeedah is the most important principal of our true religion, so beware of that which is alien to it, like supplicating to other than Allah, such as the Prophets, pious people, righteous people, or to swear, sacrifice and vow to other than Allah. Visiting the sooth-sayers and fortune-tellers, using amulets, practicing exorcism involving polytheism and everything which resembles the actions of unbelief and misguidance.
The essence of my speech is :
We want Muslim women who evaluate the matters according to the methodology of Allah, the Greatest, to look upon life through the Noble Qur’aan, to be aware of the Hereafter, to be aware of the Hereafter while she is in this world, to take al-Islaam as a guide and way of life and the Sunnah of the Messenger (saw) as a good example. This is the sort of woman that we want, who can accomplish many beneficial things int his life bother for herself and for others.
O my sister, in this book which you now hold in your hands is a reminder and nourishment of this life. It is a life that could be long or short, but at the end of it, there will be death and then the grave. The graces of the people of Paradise will be widened by seventy arms lengths and will be filled with greenery until the Day of Judgment. However the people of the Hellfire will be hit by metal hammers and their graves will be narrowed down crushing their ribs.
Then there will be the Resurrection!! Then the Gathering!! Then the producing of the deeds and then the Judgment!! After this we shall be given an everlasting dwelling, a permanent abode and eternal resident either in Paradise, which is as wide as the heavens and the earth, or in a blazing dark black fire.
“Whoever is removed away from the Fire and admitted into Paradise he will be successful.”
O my sister, these are the words of hope and words of the Trustworthy Adviser. Beware of Satan’s followers and the army of Iblees who want to put you under temptations and deceptions. Be the righteous slave girl of Allah and a descendent of the noble and righteous.
Know that your role in building up the Ummah is a great one. So perform your role and do not be the means that lead to ruin and destruction but be the maker of honor and glory.
I urge you again to go back to the two might revelations, the Book of Allah, the Most perfect, and the Sunnah of His Messenger (saw) so that we achieve the happiness of this life and the next.
The conclusion of my call is to praise and thank Allah, the Lord of the Worlds.
Aboo al-Haarith ‘Alee bin Hasan bin ‘Alee
Az-Zarqaa 1 Ramadan 1405 H
Prophetic Narrations and Words in Light of This Topic
Aboo Huraira [radiyallaahu anhu] related that the Messenger of Allaah [sallallaahu`alaihi wa sallam] said:
If a woman prayed her five daily prayers, fasted in the month, protected her private parts from illegal sexual intercourse and obeyed her husband, it will be said to her: Enter Paradise from whichever gate you like.
Ibn `Umar [radiyallaahu anhu] related that the Messenger of Allaah [sallallaahu`alaihi wa sallam] said:
All of this world is an enjoyment and the best enjoyment of this world is a good and pious woman.
Words In Light Of This Topic
'The women's issue is a matter that should concern every father and son, as long as we have fathers and sons in this world there will be a deep respect for women's dignity. Those who do not distinguish between honour and indecency are drowned in illusions and swamps.'
'O women, you are half of the Ummah and as you give birth to the other half, you become the whole Ummah.'
(Muhammad bin Islmaa`eel al-Muqaddam)
O sisters in Islaam, this concise advice which I am going to give you is very important advice. It is advice to remind you and enable you to safeguard yourselves, your husbands, your children, to strengthen your religion in this world and therefore improving your condition in the Hereafter, inshallaah.
Caring about the Family
This falls under two main categories:
Firstly, the husband.
Secondly, the children.
I am starting with a discussion about the upbringing of the family because society is based upon this focal point, the family. If the family is good and upright, then the Islaamic society will be good and upright. Whereas if the family becomes corrupt and bad, then the society will in turn become corrupt and bad.
- The Husband:
a) To look after your husband in regards to obeying him and agreeing to his requests according to what the law of Islaam has brought, as the Prophet [sallallaahu`alaihi wa sallam] said:
There is no obedience to the creation when it involves disobedience to the Creator.
b) To give him and fulfill his personal needs and rights, whether it is financial, material or personal support. The husband should also give due rights to the wife and the family by looking after them, co-operating with them and help in bringing them up so that they may become righteous.
2. The Children:
a) Their upbringing and care with regards to their health, food, clothing and love.b) Bringing them up with good manners and teaching them the rules of the Sharee`ah, nuturing and encouraging them to attain these good characteristics. Also to teach the children that they are Muslims and when they grow up they will have to serve this religion. They will also have to call to the guidance of the Lord of the Worlds and be followers of the Sunnah of the best of the Prophets
Related by al-Baghawee in Sharh us-Sunnah (10/44).
Posted at 12/7/2004 8:07:41 pm by zremmas